Unclog Your Happiness

Unclog Your Happiness provides a direct way to eliminate all the problems in your life. We have created a multitude of beliefs about ourselves, which are impossible to satisfy. These beliefs continuously contradict each other, causing us to suffer. For those of you who have enjoyed Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now, but never knew how to get there, this book is for you.

This book takes an empirical approaching to removing these labels that we have created. A simple and straightforward practical approach is outlined. The language and flow of the book is simple and easy to understand. For those looking for a more technical and detailed look at relevant research, scientific studies are referenced throughout the text.

Below is the first chapter, the introduction. If you want to read more, Unclog Your Happiness can be purchased through our bookstore, here.

Are you content right now?

Are you able to be fully present and enjoy whatever it is that you are doing?

We continuously try to navigate a world that is defined by polarized labels: good and bad; beautiful and ugly; having and not having. We have desires, and when we finally get what we want, we feel great. How long does that great feeling last though? How did we feel before getting what we wanted? Our desires take us away from the world we live in, and when we finally achieve our goal, we generally don’t enjoy it for long. Never content, we are always seeking. No matter how great we think something is, there is absolutely nothing that will satiate us long term.

Take lottery winners, for example. Many believe winning the lottery will be a life-changing event that will bring them long term happiness; However, one study of the Dutch PostCode lottery shows that lottery winners were not significantly happier after six months. [1] An earlier study showed that while the self-reported level of happiness for lotter winners was higher than control for how they currently (in general) felt, their self-reported level of happiness of how they had felt prior to winning was also higher than control. Further, the study showed that they took less pleasure in mundane activities when compared to control and to accident victims. [2] It seemed that they merely thought that they were, and had been, happier. Some lottery winners, over the long term, even deeply regret ever winning.

Marriage, the great union between two individuals, does not create a perpetual state of happiness. It likewise adheres to our tendency to adapt. [3] Why do so many marriages fail? Why is the concept of a honeymoon used so often to describe the temporary increase in pleasure from a new condition?  How is it even possible that making love, an act so special and sacred, can sometimes, for some, become so stale that different positions become necessary to continue enjoyment? We expect more, and when it doesn’t come, we can feel unsatisfied or upset. We may try to lay blame on someone, or try to fix our problems; however, these problems are inherently unavoidable and unfixable.

The sweetness that comes from getting what we want fades with time. Our brain functions in such a way that if we continue to want, will continue to ride the rollercoaster of life. This is inevitable. The tendency to quickly return to a baseline level of happiness, despite positive or negative events, is known as the hedonic treadmill. [4] Why put so much effort and emotion into something that will get us nowhere?

We often find ourselves wanting contradictory things. Not being able to do both, despite being impossible, causes great anxiety. It can even feel like Hell! Escape seems hopeless, but only because we have been unaware of the only path to freedom.

But life need not consist of such relentless pursuits. We need not experience the anxiety, frustration, and torment that we have forced upon ourselves in the past. Mediocrity is not what this book is about either. One may live life in such a way that every moment is happiness; such that, no matter the environment, you are constantly absorbed in bliss or peace. Many people are already living in this perpetual state in which their daily mundane s pleasure has been rated higher than both sexual and drug induced euphoria, described as combination of intense, impersonal compassion, joy, and love, while also experiencing enhanced cognitive abilities. [5] You need not bow down and be bound by the ever ebbing currents of emotional conflict. You can transcend it, and that is what this book is about. The continual practice of Self-inquiry, the main technique taught in this book, does not cause a decrease in dopamine levels. In fact, both dopamine and opiate levels increase! [6] It is a sustainable and pleasurable practice; a simple and direct way of getting off this roller coaster of inevitable unhappiness and into another place that is so sweet no such attraction could ever seem appealing.

Through this book you will see that there is a choice. You can choose to continue to live your life chasing excitement in the hopes of attaining a happiness that you will never completely find. After all, it is this great chase which, even after all these years of your life, has not found a sustainable solution and has led you to reading this book. Or, you can stop playing this game entirely. You can surrender to the present, work systematically to remove everything clogging up your happiness, and experience a peace and joy you may never have thought possible.

This book is not introducing any new concepts. The essential teachings explained here are very similar to those of many spiritual leaders and self-improvement gurus. This can be seen in both contemporary and historical works, including Ramana Maharshi, Gary Weber, Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie, Socrates’s Allegory of the Cave, The Bible, Bhagavad Gita, and more. This book attempts to illustrate a simple and systematic approach to clear away everything that is getting in the way of you being happy. It is not difficult, and the results will transform you.

Such grandiose claims may be hard to believe. Try for yourself and see the difference it makes in your life. You shall soon find release from the stress of life and even moments where you tap into incredible joy and contentment. Moments that once gave you great anxiety, fear, and anger will no longer seize control over you; you will be able to dissipate them with a few words. That is only a taste of things to come for those willing to fully commit to this new way of life.